Since my birthday is around the corner I have been doing a lot of reflecting. The past 6 years have been crazy, chaotic, dramatic and educational. I am a true believer that time changes everything. Now I'm not one of the best people to give advice however I've been there.
1. Be grateful for every opportunity. Early on in my career I took a position working for a entertainment based publication selling advertisement. I look back now and think that was by far the coolest job that I have ever had. Attending so many party's and meeting so many interesting people I really regret not sticking with it. At the time I had let my work life and a shitty boyfriend mentally and physically wreck my world. The reality of it was I was young and fresh out of college. I spent more time taking naps then taking meetings.
2. Sometimes you have to kiss ass before you can kick it. Coming out of college everyone has this dream of making 100k for doing nothing. And like mentioned previously those naps I was taking were reflecting my paycheck. Now being completely cut off by my parents I got motivated quickly to get my shit together. I learned that working 12 hour days were standard. I learned to suck up to get what I wanted because nothing was going to fall into my lap without hard work.
3. Don't be cheap when buying your shoes, purse and vodka. In your 20's you learn who has the best happy hour and what stores have the best deals. I live by this statement. My hangovers only seem to get worse and worse with age. I remember being 18 using a fake ID at the Bronco drive thru liquor store. Most of my Thursday nights were spent consuming bottomless amounts of popov. Drinking it now is the equivalent of rubbing alcohol. I don't know what I was thinking.
4. Don't burn your bridges. You never know when you will need some one's help down the line. This was one of my mistakes I made early on. I've burned bridges and this is one of my biggest regrets.
5. Learn to be selfish. It's really odd to think about this but every job that I have had up until my last position when quiting I would start crying. I would cry because I felt like I was letting them down. When in reality I shouldn't be upset that I am leaving a position but, look at it as taking on a new challenge. And like most people that leave there jobs each jump has been for more money. More money= a better life for Martini.
6. Dress age appropriate. Now I realize I don't have the body of a 18 yr old. I think it was around 25 when my body really started to change. And when I say change I don't mean get fat. I mean when trying on clothing in the juniors section the cuts were just not flattering anymore. It's like clothing had started to get shorter and shorter. And shorter cuts with older age does not go well.
7. No matter how much of a troll another woman is to you your obligated to be happy for her when she gets engaged before you. I know deep down inside we all have that one fenemy that we just can't stand. And when the day comes that they are flaunting that rock the only thing you can think is "that bitch'. When in reality everyone has a different life path. I am not the same person that I was at 20, 23 or 25. I cannot image my life any other way and I am incredibly grateful for that. So moral of the story let her have her day.
8. Love and cherish your friends. Your friends are the people who pick you up when you are down. They are the people that you laugh with non stop for hours over the stupidest things. They are the people that you share late nights, early mornings and an endless amount of stories that you would be to embarrassed to shared with the world. They are your sisters from other misters.
9. Travel while you can. When your in your 20's its still OK to stay with your friends. More friends= more crash pads. Cheaper trips give you the opportunity to experience more places.
10. Don't judge people over insignificant things. Be opened minded. You never know who you will share a true connection with. I know personally in the past I have been judgemental over stupid things .